Cognitive Psycho

So, you’re in the middle of a conversation, maybe about something big or even trivial, and there it is—that glazed-over look, the fixed misunderstanding. The words you’re saying don’t reach them; they don’t want them to. You’re in an argument with someone who’s not just disagreeing—they’re dedicated to misunderstanding you. And guess what? You’re wasting your time. 1. Their Goal Isn’t Understanding; It’s Victory Here’s the first thing to understand: people who argue to misunderstand aren’t trying to connect with you. They don’t want to understand your point; they want to dismiss it. They’re less interested in meaning than in winning the battle of “I’m right, and you’re irrelevant.” Engaging with this type of person is like trying to train a cat to fetch. Sure, it might make you feel better momentarily, but trust me— the cat (or your opponent) isn’t impressed. When their goal is to emerge victorious, no amount of explanation, logic, or even hard facts is going to sway them.

Ah, relationships—the beautiful tapestry of human interaction, where love, joy, and happiness intertwine with disappointment, betrayal, and the occasional existential crisis. But what do you do when that tapestry becomes a festering pile of toxic sludge? You clean it, of course. But don’t worry; it’s not as difficult as solving a Rubik's Cube blindfolded. First, let’s talk about the obvious: setting boundaries. I know, it sounds simple enough, right? Yet, the moment you mention the “B” word, people start clutching their pearls as if you just suggested they drown puppies. If you don’t establish clear boundaries, you’re inviting everyone to treat you like a doormat. And trust me, no one wants to be that. So, grab a metaphorical broom and start sweeping away those boundary violations before they pile up like laundry in a college dorm room. Next, we have the concept of personal responsibility, which seems to have gone the way of the dinosaur. If your relationships are toxic

So, you’re wondering if your relationship is “healthy.” The fact you’re even asking should be a hint. But for the brave (or self-deluded) souls pressing on, here’s a blunt guide to checking if what you have is actually worth your time. 1. Do You Have Respect? (Or Is This Just a Power Game?) A relationship without respect is like a Ferrari without an engine. Sure, it looks good from the outside, but it’s not going anywhere. If the basic courtesy of respecting each other’s boundaries, goals, and quirks is missing, well, don’t expect your love life to go far. Respect is also about genuinely listening, not just nodding while you plot your next counter-argument. If every disagreement turns into a strategic battle for dominance, congratulations—you’re in a power struggle, not a relationship. Check yourself: Are you treating your partner as a person or just as a piece on your life chessboard? 2. Can You Have (Gasp) Real Conversations? Communication is hailed as the holy grail of relationships