Cognitive Psycho

Ah, the instant rage reaction. That instinctual, all-too-human flare-up. Is it about justice? Morality? No. It's about the ego—your delicate, precious ego—which just can’t bear the slightest bruise. For some reason, we’re hardwired to believe that getting upset proves something about our importance or intelligence. Spoiler alert: It doesn’t. Your Reaction Is (Probably) About You, Not Them Here’s the thing about rage—when you react immediately, you aren’t channeling deep wisdom or insight. You’re simply airing out your insecurities, unresolved baggage, and a primal urge to be right. The ego hates being questioned, corrected, or worse yet, ignored. But here’s a daring thought: what if you aren't always right? What if your instant judgment isn’t divine, perfect, or even informed? Chances are, you’re reacting to an incomplete picture. Because guess what? You don’t know everything. The ego hates to admit this, which is why it insists on jumping into “fix it now” mode. But let’s get

You ever catch yourself endlessly looping over a single thought, like a hamster stuck in a wheel it didn’t even ask to be on? Congratulations! You’ve entered the world of rumination, where thinking gets so repetitive and unproductive, you could almost convince yourself it’s useful. You’d think you’re solving problems, but let’s be honest—it’s more like rehearsing your misery with great dedication. The Definition of Rumination (Because You Need to Be Sure You’re Doing It Right) Rumination is the mental equivalent of chewing cud, like a cow. Except, instead of getting nutrients out of the process, you’re extracting nothing except more stress. You’re running over the same problem again and again, hoping that somehow, by thinking it to death, you’ll achieve enlightenment. Spoiler alert: you won’t. And what a fantastic strategy, right? Just keep doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. That’s totally what evolution intended—us, sitting around in our heads, gnawi

Ah, a breakup. That wonderful moment when the universe decides to give you a personal invitation to emotional hell. Congratulations. You’re now free to wallow in self-pity, or better yet, binge-watch Netflix while eating ice cream by the gallon like a well-adjusted adult. 1. Accept the Truth: You're Not That Special Here’s the thing: you thought you were in some special relationship, didn’t you? Maybe you even believed this person was "the one"—as if the universe has time to cater to your personal romantic fantasies. Newsflash: they’re not. The universe doesn’t care about your fragile ego or your idea of soulmates. You’re not the first person to experience heartbreak, and you won’t be the last. So stop acting like your pain is some profound tragedy that requires endless social media posts. 2. Reclaim Your Responsibility: It's Not All Their Fault  Here’s a little secret that might be hard to swallow: you probably screwed up too. But, of course, it’s easier to paint you

Sure, let’s talk about impulsiveness. It’s that fabulous trait that makes you the kind of person who dives headfirst into a swamp without checking for alligators. You know, the one where you think, “Why not?!” instead of asking yourself if you should actually burn down your life today. But hey, you’re not dumb—just impulsive, right? Let’s fix that. Impulsiveness: The Trainwreck You Can’t Stop Watching Oh, the joys of impulsiveness. That delightful part of your brain that convinces you it’s totally fine to spend your rent money on an overpriced gadget because “It’s on sale!” Sure, it feels thrilling, like running with scissors, but let’s face it—most impulsive decisions leave a trail of regret longer than a Canadian winter. See, the thing about impulsiveness is that it’s all about instant gratification. Your brain craves that sweet dopamine hit, and you’re too busy chasing it to think about the consequences. Classic you. It’s not that you can’t think long-term—it’s that you just can’t b

Step One: Recognize You’re the Problem  (I Know, It’s Shocking) So, you think everyone else is the issue, right? Yeah, because it's perfectly reasonable that every person in your life has suddenly become unbearable, and you, the beacon of moral perfection, are just a victim of their incompetence. Newsflash: If you're the common denominator in every conflict, it's probably not them. You’ve built a fortress of delusion around yourself, one where you’re a misunderstood genius, and everyone else is too dense to understand your brilliance. But maybe—just maybe—you’re not a misunderstood genius. Maybe you're just misunderstood because you're toxic and people are sick of your nonsense. It's not that hard to look in the mirror and ask, "Am I the problem?" But that’s scary, isn’t it? Better to live in blissful ignorance and blame the world. Well, congratulations on that stellar strategy—it’s obviously working wonders. Step Two: Learn to Shut Up (Ye