Cognitive Psycho

Ah, the instant rage reaction. That instinctual, all-too-human flare-up. Is it about justice? Morality? No. It's about the ego—your delicate, precious ego—which just can’t bear the slightest bruise. For some reason, we’re hardwired to believe that getting upset proves something about our importance or intelligence. Spoiler alert: It doesn’t. Your Reaction Is (Probably) About You, Not Them Here’s the thing about rage—when you react immediately, you aren’t channeling deep wisdom or insight. You’re simply airing out your insecurities, unresolved baggage, and a primal urge to be right. The ego hates being questioned, corrected, or worse yet, ignored. But here’s a daring thought: what if you aren't always right? What if your instant judgment isn’t divine, perfect, or even informed? Chances are, you’re reacting to an incomplete picture. Because guess what? You don’t know everything. The ego hates to admit this, which is why it insists on jumping into “fix it now” mode. But let’s get

Sure, let’s talk about impulsiveness. It’s that fabulous trait that makes you the kind of person who dives headfirst into a swamp without checking for alligators. You know, the one where you think, “Why not?!” instead of asking yourself if you should actually burn down your life today. But hey, you’re not dumb—just impulsive, right? Let’s fix that. Impulsiveness: The Trainwreck You Can’t Stop Watching Oh, the joys of impulsiveness. That delightful part of your brain that convinces you it’s totally fine to spend your rent money on an overpriced gadget because “It’s on sale!” Sure, it feels thrilling, like running with scissors, but let’s face it—most impulsive decisions leave a trail of regret longer than a Canadian winter. See, the thing about impulsiveness is that it’s all about instant gratification. Your brain craves that sweet dopamine hit, and you’re too busy chasing it to think about the consequences. Classic you. It’s not that you can’t think long-term—it’s that you just can’t b

Well, here we are again, talking about “the pause.” As if stopping for a breath somehow holds the key to solving all life’s little messes. Pause, they say, like it’s some revolutionary concept that took philosophers centuries to uncover. Let’s be honest—most people can't sit still for five seconds without reaching for their phone or inventing a “pressing” task. But fine, we’ll entertain this notion, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll realize there’s more to pausing than frozen screens and buffering videos. Pausing to Break the Cycle First off, let’s get this straight: pausing isn’t laziness, but most people can’t tell the difference. Taking a breather actually allows your brain to reset, disrupts repetitive patterns, and helps you see things differently. You might even—brace yourself—find a new solution simply by giving yourself a split second to think. Here’s the truth, though: nobody wants to pause when they're stressed because they think they’re the exception to the rules of biol