Cognitive Psycho

Ah, the instant rage reaction. That instinctual, all-too-human flare-up. Is it about justice? Morality? No. It's about the ego—your delicate, precious ego—which just can’t bear the slightest bruise. For some reason, we’re hardwired to believe that getting upset proves something about our importance or intelligence. Spoiler alert: It doesn’t. Your Reaction Is (Probably) About You, Not Them Here’s the thing about rage—when you react immediately, you aren’t channeling deep wisdom or insight. You’re simply airing out your insecurities, unresolved baggage, and a primal urge to be right. The ego hates being questioned, corrected, or worse yet, ignored. But here’s a daring thought: what if you aren't always right? What if your instant judgment isn’t divine, perfect, or even informed? Chances are, you’re reacting to an incomplete picture. Because guess what? You don’t know everything. The ego hates to admit this, which is why it insists on jumping into “fix it now” mode. But let’s get

Sure, let’s talk about impulsiveness. It’s that fabulous trait that makes you the kind of person who dives headfirst into a swamp without checking for alligators. You know, the one where you think, “Why not?!” instead of asking yourself if you should actually burn down your life today. But hey, you’re not dumb—just impulsive, right? Let’s fix that. Impulsiveness: The Trainwreck You Can’t Stop Watching Oh, the joys of impulsiveness. That delightful part of your brain that convinces you it’s totally fine to spend your rent money on an overpriced gadget because “It’s on sale!” Sure, it feels thrilling, like running with scissors, but let’s face it—most impulsive decisions leave a trail of regret longer than a Canadian winter. See, the thing about impulsiveness is that it’s all about instant gratification. Your brain craves that sweet dopamine hit, and you’re too busy chasing it to think about the consequences. Classic you. It’s not that you can’t think long-term—it’s that you just can’t b

Let’s be honest. Your anger doesn’t exactly make you more lovable, does it? Rage response: it’s like setting yourself on fire to make a point to everyone else who isn’t even cold. Rage as a Communication Disaster It’s funny how rage feels like it makes your point “clearer.” You think you’re saying, “This is important to me.” But others hear a whole lot of noise, and probably one message above all else: “Here’s a person who can’t handle themselves.” What’s even more ironic is that rage actually blocks productive discussion. Your adrenaline is up, your mind’s narrow-focused, and your logical reasoning? Out the window. Great work if you’re auditioning for a reality TV show, but not so much if you want people to actually hear you. And don’t think people are impressed. A rant doesn’t make you intimidating; it makes you irrational. Picture a flailing toddler, not a warrior. Rage Feeds Itself (and Not in a Fun Way) When’s the last time you got really mad, and then felt amazing about it the ne