Cognitive Psycho

In the grand narrative of human existence, few concepts are as fundamental—and yet as overlooked—as telos. Originating from ancient Greek philosophy, telos translates to “end,” “goal,” or “purpose.” It is not merely an objective to be met, but a profound calling embedded within each of us, guiding us towards fulfillment. Telos suggests that everything has an intrinsic purpose, a reason for being. This is not simply an ambition crafted by society or whim. Rather, telos is the inherent end-point towards which we all are unknowingly striving, often in unconscious ways. This concept, explored extensively by Aristotle, proposes that life is not a chaotic dance of chance. Instead, it’s a purposeful journey where each of us is equipped with the potential to actualize our unique nature. It is this process of aligning with our true telos that allows us to experience a life of meaning. To live without understanding our telos is akin to being lost in a forest without a compass. We might wander, a...

So, you want to “find yourself”? A fascinatingly overused pursuit, but hey, go ahead and look under all the rocks you want. Just don’t be shocked if it’s a little more complicated than a few personality quizzes and “vibe-check” astrology apps. Why Should I Care About Identity? The whole “Who am I?” question isn’t just existential navel-gazing, though it’s often treated that way. Without a clear personal identity, you’re at the mercy of every passing trend and opinion – a walking, talking sponge for other people’s agendas. Building your identity is like installing mental armor; it won’t solve everything, but it’ll at least stop you from drifting into life like a wind-blown plastic bag. How Do I Figure Out What I Stand For? Look, if you don’t know your own values, don’t worry – society is dying to tell you what they should be. But if you’re feeling bold enough to think for yourself, ask which principles resonate with you, not just which ones will look good in your Instagram b...

The collapse of identity in the wake of a toxic relationship is no trivial matter. Toxic relationships corrode the very foundations of your being. To rebuild, you must start with the truth, however uncomfortable it may be. Confront Reality and Abandon Denial The first step in reclaiming your identity is to confront reality head-on. You must recognize that the relationship damaged you, likely more than you even realize. This isn’t an exercise in self-pity but in radical honesty—facing the parts of yourself that were stifled, broken, or warped by the toxicity. To move forward, you must abandon denial. People stay in unhealthy relationships for years, clinging to the hope that things will change. But this delusion only extends your suffering, and the first step toward renewal is the decision to face what is, not what you wish it could have been. Acknowledging the damage doesn't mean you were weak for staying; it means you're strong enough now to face the truth. It takes courage to...