Cognitive Psycho

Dealing with a gaslighter is a unique form of psychological gymnastics that has you questioning whether you're on your way to enlightenment or simply losing your grip on reality. It’s like arguing with a mirror that somehow learned how to talk back. Just when you think you’ve reached the bottom of it, the ground shifts. Gaslighters thrive on ambiguity. They’re virtuosos in the art of the “Did I say that? No, you must have misunderstood.” It’s a world where reality is malleable – except, of course, they’re the only ones with the right to shape it. The Power of Doubt as a Tool of Control Gaslighters know that self-doubt is the ultimate handbrake on your perception. So, they sprinkle doubt like it’s fairy dust, a little here, a little there, until you're not even sure what color the sky is anymore. It’s like watching someone paint over the truth in thin layers; you almost don’t notice the color fading. Gaslighting isn’t overt bullying, no, it’s far more delicate. They’

Ah, the instant rage reaction. That instinctual, all-too-human flare-up. Is it about justice? Morality? No. It's about the ego—your delicate, precious ego—which just can’t bear the slightest bruise. For some reason, we’re hardwired to believe that getting upset proves something about our importance or intelligence. Spoiler alert: It doesn’t. Your Reaction Is (Probably) About You, Not Them Here’s the thing about rage—when you react immediately, you aren’t channeling deep wisdom or insight. You’re simply airing out your insecurities, unresolved baggage, and a primal urge to be right. The ego hates being questioned, corrected, or worse yet, ignored. But here’s a daring thought: what if you aren't always right? What if your instant judgment isn’t divine, perfect, or even informed? Chances are, you’re reacting to an incomplete picture. Because guess what? You don’t know everything. The ego hates to admit this, which is why it insists on jumping into “fix it now” mode. But let’s get

You ever catch yourself endlessly looping over a single thought, like a hamster stuck in a wheel it didn’t even ask to be on? Congratulations! You’ve entered the world of rumination, where thinking gets so repetitive and unproductive, you could almost convince yourself it’s useful. You’d think you’re solving problems, but let’s be honest—it’s more like rehearsing your misery with great dedication. The Definition of Rumination (Because You Need to Be Sure You’re Doing It Right) Rumination is the mental equivalent of chewing cud, like a cow. Except, instead of getting nutrients out of the process, you’re extracting nothing except more stress. You’re running over the same problem again and again, hoping that somehow, by thinking it to death, you’ll achieve enlightenment. Spoiler alert: you won’t. And what a fantastic strategy, right? Just keep doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. That’s totally what evolution intended—us, sitting around in our heads, gnawi

Ah, a breakup. That wonderful moment when the universe decides to give you a personal invitation to emotional hell. Congratulations. You’re now free to wallow in self-pity, or better yet, binge-watch Netflix while eating ice cream by the gallon like a well-adjusted adult. 1. Accept the Truth: You're Not That Special Here’s the thing: you thought you were in some special relationship, didn’t you? Maybe you even believed this person was "the one"—as if the universe has time to cater to your personal romantic fantasies. Newsflash: they’re not. The universe doesn’t care about your fragile ego or your idea of soulmates. You’re not the first person to experience heartbreak, and you won’t be the last. So stop acting like your pain is some profound tragedy that requires endless social media posts. 2. Reclaim Your Responsibility: It's Not All Their Fault  Here’s a little secret that might be hard to swallow: you probably screwed up too. But, of course, it’s easier to paint you

Experiencing anxiety and rage upon waking after a betrayal can be a jarring reality. The emotional turmoil that accompanies such experiences often infiltrates the morning hours, leaving you in a state of disarray. Understanding the roots of this anxiety and rage, as well as learning to cope with these feelings, is essential for your mental health and overall well-being. The Nature of Morning Anxiety Morning anxiety is often a byproduct of unresolved emotional conflicts and stressors that weigh heavily on our minds. Upon waking, your brain becomes acutely aware of lingering issues, particularly those tied to feelings of betrayal. This heightened awareness can manifest as a tightness in the chest, racing thoughts, or an overwhelming sense of dread. When betrayal occurs, it challenges your sense of trust, security, and identity. The brain reacts by heightening your anxiety levels, which can lead to feelings of rage directed at both the betrayer and yourself. This is a normal response to f

Let's talk about panic attacks—our charming little brain glitches that manage to turn a totally mundane situation into a full-blown existential crisis. Imagine the irony of living in a relatively safe society, yet feeling like you’re on the brink of death when you’re, say, standing in line for coffee. Yes, that tightness in your chest isn’t from an impending doom; it’s your mind simply having a “moment.”   Why So Dramatic? A panic attack, in all its glory, is basically a runaway alarm system in your body. Your brain sends out the “Code Red” signal, flooding your system with adrenaline and cortisol as if a lion were lurking around the corner. Reality check: it’s probably just the stress from tomorrow’s work deadline. Now, why does your brain decide to mess with you like this? Blame evolution. Our minds evolved to overreact to threats because, once upon a time, not freaking out meant getting eaten. It Feels Like Dying, But Spoiler: You’re Not A panic attack can feel like