So, you think a narcissist can love you. That’s adorable. Let me help you out: narcissists, by their very nature, are spectacularly incapable of experiencing love as most people understand it. Narcissism, if you’re unfamiliar, is the art of self-admiration perfected. It’s a pathological need to see oneself as the epicenter of the universe, a gravitational force to which all other beings must submit. You can’t expect someone who’s constantly preoccupied with their own grandiosity to be concerned with such trivialities as your feelings. A Narcissist's "Love" Is Actually a Mirror Narcissists don’t love people; they love reflections of themselves. If you happen to serve as a flattering mirror, fantastic—you’re in for a ride. But the moment your reflection reveals something they don’t like? Well, don’t let the door hit you on the way out. You see, love, in the healthy sense, is about understanding and accepting another person’s autonomy. Narcissists, however, need others to va